Every single magazine or bit on a morning show will encourage us all to ‘take some time for ourselves’ during the holidays.
Yeah, because LIFE ISN’T BUSY AT ALL AT THIS TIME OF YEAR.
But I think it’s an important task to keep in mind, especially at this time of year, when women try to do everything for everybody else and wear themselves out and down.
(And yes, I do think women have this tendency more than men. Not a judgment on either gender, just a tendency).
This year, therefore, I resolve to give thanks to myself in a couple of different ways:
1. Take frequent baths. Bubbles optional.
2. Read whatever I want. Take that, television!
3. Sneak a book for me into whatever Amazon order I make.
4. Drink hot cider.
5. Find time to write, just so my head doesn’t leave the story too much.
6. Find time to exercise, so my natural holiday indulgence doesn’t make me sob too much in January.
7. Nap when needed.
8. Email random, often goofy, things to friends, although I will never–NEVER–forward jokes to a mass group of people. You are welcome.
9. Request movies from Netflix that would otherwise embarrass me to admit I watched (and probably liked). Do not admit I watched or liked them, and return quickly (The work of Jason Statham? Dragonwyck starring Vincent Price and Gene Tierney? Yet another version of Lady Chatterley’s Lover? No. None of those, of course not!)
10. Grab my son and hug him whenever I want. He’ll be refusing hugs soon enough (he’s nine now).
Do you do anything special FOR YOURSELF this time of year? What stresses you out the most? What is your favorite holiday thing to do?
Well, I actually love baking cookies while listening to holiday music. Call me corny!
But that isn’t really ME time because I do it with the kids. I love my family but I also crave some ALONE time. It’s hard to come by, especially while at my parents’ house. But this year I’ve made a resolution to get out to a cafe to journal over a cup of coffee or just for a quiet walk every day.
One year it occurred to me that no one in my family thinks that someone besides Santa has to stuff the stockings–so my stocking is usually a bit skimpy. This has actually gotten better, though. One year my son gave me a bunch of spatulas (a family joke) and now my daughter finds me things usually made of chocolate. But I learned that it was fun to shop for myself at Christmas. Now I buy frivolous things to stuff my own stocking and I also buy myself something from the great Holiday sales. Presents to ME!
LOL! I would be happy to stuff my own stocking (hello, Sephora!)
I like to bake at this time of year, which is weird because I don’t at any other time. I will make sugar cookies with candied fruit (when you roll the dough up and slice it, it looks like stained glass windows, very pretty) and peppermint brownies. I also like to hide out and read, and I’m also a weird-things-from-Netflix junkie (right now I’m watching a BBC production from a few years ago, “Our Mutual Friend”–don’t know how I missed it before, it’s really great)
But I am also on deadline. Ugh.
I decided some time ago NOT to get caught up in the holiday lunacy (it helps if you’re not religious). Gifts for kids in the family only and/or small gifts for everyone and keep it simple.
Now the kids are getting bigger and I absolutely refuse to buy gift certificates or give them money, because I shop on ebay or at Daedalus Books.
So my xmas gift to myself is essentially doing what I want to do and not getting suckered into all sorts of imaginary demands or expectations. Also, if possible, I like to go to a live performance, my favorite being The Messiah.
That the funny thing about us here. . . we never have to worry about me time because we just never have had a busy or nutty time around now, even when we had more of the family around to come over. It’s just always been easy, no stress (well, not with the food or presents or anything like that. With the family, well, yeah, but that’s not what we’re talking about here lOL). So to us, it’s always been part funny and part head scratching as to what all the fuss is about. Guess we’re just weird. Well, we are, but just saying, more so.
Lois
I’m BA AAACK!! I finished my Golden Heart entry at 9 AM this morning after 14 hours of non stop writing. Can you say sleep deprived. And as I mailed my entry today I am no longer on blog restriction! YAY! Did you miss me? I certainly missed all of you. Of course I will start revising the book I entered on Monday. I refuse to stop writing until SOMEBODY publishes me, even if it is in self defense!
I love the idea of shopping for myself this Christmas, O Divine One. Great idea.
A bubble bath actually sounds pretty good right now! After my trip to the post office this morning I had to work! Can you say Black Friday? Ugh!
I try at least once during the holidays to go to a movie all by myself. Sometimes its fun to sit in the dark and enjoy a movie with a bunch of strangers.
Of course, I also try to attend at least one Christmas performance at the Alabama Shakespeare Festival in Montgomery. I’m going to their performance of the musical A Christmas Carol in a few weeks. There is also a festival of lights at the Montgomery Zoo.
And I will take one of my days off to curl up in bed with lots of junk food, a stack of DVDs and a stack of great historical romances. Definitely my favorite annual holiday event!
A bubble bath actually sounds pretty good right now! After my trip to the post office this morning I had to work! Can you say Black Friday? Ugh!
OMIGOSH, Louisa, O Doggie One, did you hear a worker was trampled to death at a Walmart in New York? And the shoppers refused to leave the store even after they were told what happened.
Do be good to yourself.
And CONGRATULATIONS for getting your GH entry in!!!!!! Whoo hoo.
We heard about it yesterday afternoon, O Divine One. I couldn’t believe it. What is wrong with people? These people need to slow down read more romance novels and get some perspective!
Fortunately our store manager always asks for police presence in the store before we open the doors. It tends to make people behave.
I dunno–I do get lots of stuff for family and friends, but strangely I tend to get plenty for myself, as well. 🙂 And the holidays come after the end of final exams, so by comparison I feel like I’m taking things very easy.
We almost always go over to relatives, rather than having them here, so the level of stress isn’t nearly what it is for many people. Of course, we still have to get cards written and mailed, put up decorations, buy presents, and so forth, but at least we don’t usually have to entertain anyone except ourselves.
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Ooh, Amanda, I loved Our Mutual Friend! And did you see Martin Chuzzlewit? Those two were so well done…
I finished my Golden Heart entry at 9 AM this morning after 14 hours of non stop writing.
Yay, Louisa!!!
Cara